I just got of the phone with Terry (tjp) a very close friend of Dwight.
Terry has sent me some notes about the situation of our dear friend Dwight and asked me to post this for him as he is emotionally not up for it.
Personally I would like to add I feel very sad and down I have to write this down here. My thoughts and prayers are with Dwight.
Here is what Terry wants to share with all of us:
Dwight and I have been friends for a few years (2007) lots of phone calls back and forth 2-3 times a week talking about tanks or whatever, He is a Good Friend of mine.
Here is a PM from Dwight to me back on 01/18/2011
“planning ahead"
Can I ask a huge favor of you! I don’t expect it anytime soon but i don’t have any plans in my will for anyone to take care of selling my tank if something happen to me re my cancer. Lately things have been getting somewhat worse then before, I don’t really have anyone in the club that I know more then you and can trust. Says a lot for you. If say something were to happen I guess I would consider selling everything and saving the profits for Sarah or what need be. I feel really bad for asking you but my brother doesn't know what he would really do with everything, and you know basically know the value of everything for what I have. I know this is a huge favor to ask so you don’t have to feel obligated to if you don’t want. Please let me know if this would be something for you to take care of for me. What I would do is just have your phone #inside my aquarium stand for probably my brother to get a hold of you is say something were to happen. I'm not saying is to happen any time soon but I'm just planning ahead. Thank you very much Terry! Dwight”
And I told him
“That wouldn't be a problem and I'm glad that you think that way of me, and even if you need someone to just tank sit when you go out of town, that's fine to.
But just to let you know that if anything happens to you and your brother calls me I will help him out anyway I can. But I will keep some frags for myself to keep your gift friendship growing. Terry”
Dwight got worse
I’ve been tank sitting Dwight’s tank since he went in to the hospital, been running over there about every other day to check on things. When he got out I only stopped by twice a week.
Last Friday morning I got a text from Dwight’s daughter saying that ”his tank was cloudy and everything is closed up” So I drove over there to check it out, what I found is all the corals were mostly dead, the tank was so cloudy you couldn’t see 6” into the tank. When I checked the SG I found it at 1.010(way too low).
I found out Dwight wasn’t thinking right and added too much Ro/Di water, Sarah said she pulled out like 3-4 buckets of water out of the sump, nobody checked the SG, I really wish I would have known, I could have helped!
1-1/2 days later texted me, it was too late already.
I did a big water change too bring it up and started to run carbon right away. Friday afternoon Dwight and his daughter went up to the cabin for the weekend.
Friday Night I went back to his house and did another water change and the tank was starting to clear up, was there twice on Saturday and took some corals and a big 6-8”clam out that looked like they might have a chance I took them back to my house and put them in my frag tank, they didn’t make it.
Sunday LowersMyBP (James) helped me take all the dead corals out of Dwight’s tank and I tell you it was hard to do. We worked hard on hiding all the dead sps that was encrusted on the rock work. I didn’t think Dwight needed to see his tank like that.
Here is what is posted on Dwight’s Facebook page from Sarah (Dwight’s daughter)
To friends of my dad, He's not doing too well this past week. He's very, very confused on things, and says things that cannot be understood very easily. He has also been sleeping practically all day unless he's having applesauce or taking his meds. He still kind of knows people and who I am even, so I'm happy he's still kind of with the program. This summer has been really tough on the both of us but he has fought this cancer for 8 1/2 years when he was given 18 months to live. He has done outstanding and blown away all the nurses who have worked with him in the chemo room. He's been helped by the best and has lived past expectations to see me get into high school and soon start my senior year. He's the one I love with all my heart and will miss his more than ever when that time comes. Thank you everyone who has supported us and prayed for us for so long. The more the merrier. -Sarah
I talked to Dwight’s sister this afternoon (Monday) and got some bad news, he is really weak and things are not looking so good, maybe by morning he won't be amongst us anymore…
I’m heading over there real soon, this really sucks! Dwight is a good friend and will be missed!
Terry (tjp)
Terry has sent me some notes about the situation of our dear friend Dwight and asked me to post this for him as he is emotionally not up for it.
Personally I would like to add I feel very sad and down I have to write this down here. My thoughts and prayers are with Dwight.
Here is what Terry wants to share with all of us:
Dwight and I have been friends for a few years (2007) lots of phone calls back and forth 2-3 times a week talking about tanks or whatever, He is a Good Friend of mine.
Here is a PM from Dwight to me back on 01/18/2011
“planning ahead"
Can I ask a huge favor of you! I don’t expect it anytime soon but i don’t have any plans in my will for anyone to take care of selling my tank if something happen to me re my cancer. Lately things have been getting somewhat worse then before, I don’t really have anyone in the club that I know more then you and can trust. Says a lot for you. If say something were to happen I guess I would consider selling everything and saving the profits for Sarah or what need be. I feel really bad for asking you but my brother doesn't know what he would really do with everything, and you know basically know the value of everything for what I have. I know this is a huge favor to ask so you don’t have to feel obligated to if you don’t want. Please let me know if this would be something for you to take care of for me. What I would do is just have your phone #inside my aquarium stand for probably my brother to get a hold of you is say something were to happen. I'm not saying is to happen any time soon but I'm just planning ahead. Thank you very much Terry! Dwight”
And I told him
“That wouldn't be a problem and I'm glad that you think that way of me, and even if you need someone to just tank sit when you go out of town, that's fine to.
But just to let you know that if anything happens to you and your brother calls me I will help him out anyway I can. But I will keep some frags for myself to keep your gift friendship growing. Terry”
Dwight got worse
I’ve been tank sitting Dwight’s tank since he went in to the hospital, been running over there about every other day to check on things. When he got out I only stopped by twice a week.
Last Friday morning I got a text from Dwight’s daughter saying that ”his tank was cloudy and everything is closed up” So I drove over there to check it out, what I found is all the corals were mostly dead, the tank was so cloudy you couldn’t see 6” into the tank. When I checked the SG I found it at 1.010(way too low).
I found out Dwight wasn’t thinking right and added too much Ro/Di water, Sarah said she pulled out like 3-4 buckets of water out of the sump, nobody checked the SG, I really wish I would have known, I could have helped!
1-1/2 days later texted me, it was too late already.
I did a big water change too bring it up and started to run carbon right away. Friday afternoon Dwight and his daughter went up to the cabin for the weekend.
Friday Night I went back to his house and did another water change and the tank was starting to clear up, was there twice on Saturday and took some corals and a big 6-8”clam out that looked like they might have a chance I took them back to my house and put them in my frag tank, they didn’t make it.
Sunday LowersMyBP (James) helped me take all the dead corals out of Dwight’s tank and I tell you it was hard to do. We worked hard on hiding all the dead sps that was encrusted on the rock work. I didn’t think Dwight needed to see his tank like that.
Here is what is posted on Dwight’s Facebook page from Sarah (Dwight’s daughter)
To friends of my dad, He's not doing too well this past week. He's very, very confused on things, and says things that cannot be understood very easily. He has also been sleeping practically all day unless he's having applesauce or taking his meds. He still kind of knows people and who I am even, so I'm happy he's still kind of with the program. This summer has been really tough on the both of us but he has fought this cancer for 8 1/2 years when he was given 18 months to live. He has done outstanding and blown away all the nurses who have worked with him in the chemo room. He's been helped by the best and has lived past expectations to see me get into high school and soon start my senior year. He's the one I love with all my heart and will miss his more than ever when that time comes. Thank you everyone who has supported us and prayed for us for so long. The more the merrier. -Sarah
I talked to Dwight’s sister this afternoon (Monday) and got some bad news, he is really weak and things are not looking so good, maybe by morning he won't be amongst us anymore…
I’m heading over there real soon, this really sucks! Dwight is a good friend and will be missed!
Terry (tjp)
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